Would it be easier if we could always tell when we are being lied to?

People lie.

It is our nature to try to fabricate the easier road.

I would suggest the road to telling when others are lying to you is to first recognize when you are lying to yourself — particularly in the belief that you have not lied or hurt other people by it.

Can you love someone who lies to you?  Absolutely!  Parents love their children and kids are prone to try to escape consequences of what they’ve done.  But does the parent stop loving them?  By no means!

Understand lying.  It is a defense mechanism for taking responsibility for one’s actions. It’s not personal, so don’t take it personal.  The one who would lie to you to try to make their lives easier would also lie to anyone else for the same reason.  Stop taking it personally!  Instead love the person, but recognize they feel threatened enough by something they’ve done (or left undone) to trigger a self-defense reaction.  Then seek to understand why.  Rather than getting hung up on the fact that they DARED lie to YOU.  Remove yourself from the equation, for their sake.  Discern beyond the fabrication, to the reason for the fabrication for the sake of helping those you love become all they can be.

We all lie.  It’s inevitable.

[griz, soulpancake]